Title of films I am looking for

Hello . I am looking for two films I do not know the title; if you have any idea what it is can you help me am longing to find them ? would be very grateful. One I saw in the nineties on TV about a british or american young man with auburn shoulder length hair having an affair with a japanese much older man : we actually see them in bed having sex ... the other is a spanish film where we see two fully clothed middle-aged spanish men in jeans hugging and kissing fiercely, especially the one on the right kissing his lover very hard with his arm around his right shoulder : it's an excerpt of a film, or a full short movie I saw on youtube and was never able to find again even shortly aferwards and I of course I do not know the title. Last but not least, there is one movie whose excerpt I saw of a guy working in the Amerian senate; his lover comes to his place and tells him << baby >> when he opens the door, but the guy rejects him, then they make up and make love in the shower, and of course I do not know the title of the film ... Think you can help with such long shots ? Thanks a lot !